Lately I feel sexier and more beautiful than I’ve ever felt! People at work turn their heads to look at me. I can feel eyes lingering my way longer than usual. Men lose their composure when their eyes meet mine. And I don’t even wear suggestive clothing!
It’s not just that I’m looking better (and healthier!) than ever before, but most importantly I’m radiating with self-confidence. I now walk with my head up and a self-assured stride. Inside I’m proud of who I am and how far I’ve come. I was once a painfully shy, stuck-up girl. Today I’m a sexy and confident woman.
I am no longer afraid to look people in the eye. I smile a lot. What a difference it makes! I laugh, I joke around. I’m carefree and happy. I’m compassionate and kind to people. I listen more than I speak. I’m interested in what others have to say. I’m genuinely concerned about the welfare of others. The positive responses I’ve been getting from people as a result have been nothing short of beautiful. For the first time in my life I really do feel connected to people.
Not so long ago I used to feel like an outcast. I had trouble relating to others and felt out of touch with my fellow human beings. When I finally started letting go of my hangups and focusing on just being myself in their presence, I gradually discovered more and more common grounds with people, which eventually led to my being able to connect with them.
I stopped being so worried about what others thought of me. I stopped trying so hard to please them or be perfect. Instead I relaxed into the moment and learned to enjoy interacting with people. I shifted my focus from myself to them. When I interact with people now, I’m fully absorbing what they’re saying rather than being stuck in my own head, worrying and predicting, and completely missing the enjoyment of the interaction.
When you get out of your head, more exciting stuff happens! You find yourself saying and doing great things that you would normally not have said or done because you were too caught up in your endless toxic self debate. You no longer live in your head. You’re out there experiencing life to the fullest!
I love the attention my newfound confidence has brought me. People sort of gravitate towards you because you have this aura about you that is so appealing to them. And the beauty of it is, you’re not trying hard at all. That charisma, that charm, that appeal just oozes out of you in the most natural way. It’s who you are, not who you’re trying to be. I no longer have to go out there to “perform,” doing my best to be as charming as I can be. Thanks to my self-confidence, charm is already a part of me that doesn’t need to be summoned or created.
I feel like a truly genuine individual. I am real and sincere. I’m glowing with this inner energy that is radiating within me. I’ve learned to love myself. I’ve learned to love my fellow human beings. And as a result I’ve learned to love life. And it sure shows!
Self Confidence Is Sexy January 16, 2009
New Year, New Resolutions! January 4, 2009
TAKE BETTER CARE OF MY BODY
1. Get into a regular fitness routine to reap all the physical, emotional and mental benefits associated with a healthy body. Get (and stay!) lean and toned.
- Attend a drop-in dance class twice a month. I’d like to get back into ballet and try my hand at jazz and modern. I might even try something completely different like hip hop or flamenco. Dance is a lifelong passion of mine, which alas I’ve neglected these past few years. I would like to keep nurturing that passion, even if only for fun.
- Attend a yoga, yogalates, or meditation class at least once a week. I’d like to gain more flexibility and strength in addition to increasing my overall well-being.
2. Stick to a healthy, sensible diet. Consume more vegetables and less sugar. Resist comfort food (i.e., junk food) binges. Continue drinking 3 liters a day. Reduce red meat consumption.
3. Go to the dentist!
ENJOY LIFE
Get out there and participate in activities I’m interested in to live life to the fullest and meet new people.
1. At least once a week attend an event or class. At each event/class, talk to at least one new person there.
2. Continue organizing local social events, aiming for at least two a month. Focus on being myself and having a good time!
3. Once a month, try something new. Get new hobbies. I’d love to take up photography; take a strip dancing, Arabic or fencing class; volunteer; visit a new US or Canada city; attend a film fest like the Toronto Film festival; try different ethnic cuisines; visit a new art gallery or museum; take a wine tasting daytrip to a vineyard; and go to a comedy club for the first time.
4. Take life easy. Continue “dropping” at every opportunity. No need to stress over anything. Take the time to smell the roses. Remember the small things that make life so beautiful.
PAMPER MYSELF REGULARLY
Once a week, treat myself to a little something special just because. A manicure or pedicure. A pretty top I would normally consider too expensive to buy. A bouquet of fresh flowers. Beautiful stationery. A nice sit down restaurant meal. Luxury bed sheets at a bargain store. A fresh fruit smoothie in the summertime. A cup of fancy Starbucks coffee in the wintertime. A small box of dark chocolate truffles. An ice cream treat or French pastry. A walk through a beautiful park. A candlelight bubble bath…
CUT DOWN ON SPENDING
1. Reduce credit card spending by buying only things I need.
2. Create a budget for classes and social outings, and stick to it!
3. Find ways to eliminate or reduce wasteful consumption.
4. Put more money into savings
EXPLORE CAREER ALTERNATIVE(S)
Continue exploring other career opportunities of interest to supplement current income and perhaps even prompt a career change to a higher paying job in the future.
BE MORE SELF-CONFIDENT
Smile more. Walk tall. Look at people in the eye more. Greet strangers. Make small talk with people at work. Stop worrying about what people think of me. Believe in myself and how wonderful I am. Just be myself!
